I dedicate this page to recommendations on books and links related to self-improvement. I do not want this to be understood as advertising whatsoever. In fact, I have a good intention and a pure heart to help sincere seekers find the information.
While reading over the years of education and learning, I came across many interesting and good books that helped me on my path of developing and improving my knowledge, as well as of understanding myself and my processes. It was just one of the ways that served me on my journey to becoming a psychotherapist. Some books that offer exercises for working at home, without a therapist, which can be quite practical.
For all of this, I would like to recommend the books that I found useful and interesting on my journey and that I recommend to the people I directly work with in order to stay educated and in the process regardless of our meetings and in addition to the personal materials provided by me, of course.
I've decided to classify these recommendations into those intended for people who are not engaged in TA training, for those who are parents, and for those who are planning to get involved in TA training or are maybe participating in it already.
TA for everyday use and those striving for growth and development
1. TA Today: A New Introduction to Transactional Analysis – Ian Stewart I. & Vann Joines
2. Born to Win – Muriel James & Dorothy Jongeward
3. Emotional Literacy: Intelligence with a Heart – Claude Steiner
• Give yourself time as you go through the processes of becoming familiar with the concepts presented in these books.
• It would be good to take a nice and decorative notebook and write down what you come across about growth and development.
• Do exercises for yourself.
• If you find an exercise difficult or repulsive for any reason, skip it and move on.
• Allow yourself to feel what you feel as you go through the exercises – it’s okay to feel, especially when we go back to some points of our lives when we were suffering, which we persistently try to suppress.
• Give yourself permission to meet yourself in a new way – exploratory, cognitive, and healing – realizing how it used to be and how it can be different now.
• Believe in your power to change.
TA for Parents
1. "Batina je iz raja izašla i zašto" ("Spare the rod, spoil the child and why") – Dr. Milica Nikolić*
2. Little Psychology (TA for children under 7) – Alvin M. Fried
3. Psychologically Literate Child (TA for young people aged 8 to 13) – Alvin and Margaret Fried
4. A Small Book for Big Parents – Zoran Milivojević et al.
5. The Secret of Happy Children – Steve Biddulph
6. More Secrets of Happy Children – Steve Biddulph
* This is a great guide that guides us through different developmental stages of growing up and children's needs along the way of development, teaching us to improve our parenting skills.
You can’t find this book in bookstores, yet I find it of great importance. With the author's permission, I am sharing her contact details with you, so – if you are interested – you can request a copy for you via this e-mail address:
• Enjoy reading and discovering with your children.
• Teach your children to make difference between being, which is always worth and valuable (even if they make a mistake) and behaving (mistakes are welcome because we can learn a lot from them).
• Don't ever beat your children – the rod should be spared!
• Hug your children and tell them openly and straightforwardly that you love them as many times as you can – that's how you learn to love yourself too.
• If you feel that something is too difficult or too much for you or that you are stuck, it is perfectly okay to ask for help and support. You don't have to be alone – find your therapist or a guide to help you out the crisis moment.
TA for Those Engaged in TA Training
'How to Pass CTA,' a manual by Karolina Jovanoska really opened my eyes, woke me up, inspired me, being the wind at my back in the process of my exam preparation. I highly recommend it!
I am also sharing the TA Student and TA Tutor links, where you can find many useful tips and diagrams that you can use in your work or while preparing your written part of the CTA exam.
Here are more links that I found useful:
I won't list the books here separately, given that there are official TA websites where you can get recommendations, but I believe that you will get them during the training itself.
• Take the time necessary for all the processes you are going through during the training.
• It is your right to seek information for yourself and to express your needs freely.
• It is your inalienable right to change your chief supervisor if you wish so.
• Look for the best option that can help you reach your goal.
• Listen to yourself and your intuition.
• Believe in your knowledge, as well as in the fact that it is good enough to take an exam.
• Apply the stroke fantasy technique by which a person activates internal stroking so that he/she can imagine accepting strokes in the future (the person is self-motivated to be rewarded + IS).
• If you feel I can help you in any way, feel free to contact me.