The Art of Criticism

  Behavioral principle – Focus on behavior;

  Principle of clarity – State a specific behavior;

  Principle of subjectivity – Provide your experience;

  Principle of specificity – Highlight the exact behavior we want to change, separating it from other behaviors;

  Principle of timeliness – Direct criticism when it is occurring;

  Principle of the minimum intensity required – Know the limits/Don't be excessive.


  I messages

I don't like it at all when you throw things like that!

  Framed criticism

Hey, look, your play can be really creative, but it's not OK when you're pushing your friend like that.

  YOU messages (-CS and +CS)

I don't like it when you play with food that way - such a smart girl can eat quickly and go play with toys.

  Cold-Warm criticism

That was totally no good, and I'm sure you're so good at finding a solution.
  Sandwich criticism (+US, -CS, +US)

You're a very smart boy, but this behavior isn't ok – I don't like you scribbling when you are not ok with something, and I know you can use your imagination.

  A call for self-criticism

Please tell me what YOU think – is that okay?


You can go play in your room.

  A call for self-correction

What else do you think you can play?
Anita Marković